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From the very […] Read More. And, as he moves into a new phase of his life—kindergarten—I am awakened to new fears, fears that I never considered while raising my daughter because, statistically, […] Read More. Reflecting On And Planning For was intense. To help her your response would be to always respond in the Adult frame of reference. She will eventually rise up to respond as well in the Adult mode. Do you think some of what she is saying she has picked up from someone in her circle?
Teacher, someone she spends time with? At this age, it sounds learned. Adult: What makes you say that or feel that way? Adult: I am doing it this way because…. You Always do it like that!
Adult: Yes I do. It gives me the results I am looking for. Explain why this bothers you. That being said, I would imagine the key is first to recognise the transactions that are happening which TA obviously helps with then beyond that stick to calm, adult responses. Just a thought but for my money if it were my 9 year old I would remember who the actual adult is in that relationship, remember that it is my daughter that I love and probably try and find out where that kind of expression came from, she is probably mimicking someone, maybe playing with boundaries a little — my approach would be to explore that behaviour a little calmly rather than challenging her and showing that you are really bothered by it.
Again, just my thoughts, you may well get other responses from others reading this who are more qualified than I am. Many years ago my husband and I took the test. He was child to parent and I was adult to adult.
I had seven children already when he married me. So many conflicts. We had a counselor who told us to take the test, but when my husband saw the results, he would not go back.
We are old now and yet, if I calmly state a problem, he overreacts and it is terrible. What can I do? Divorce is not an option as we are on Social Security and he is not well. Shall I just buy the book and hope for the best? That being said, I am not a professional counsellor or healthcare specialist, this is just stuff I am very interested in, though I also relate very well to your predicament. All I can say from my point of view is that when trust has broken down, it is very difficult and gets worse, because patterns habits have a tendency to be repeated, it is what we do as humans and confronting these problems is not easy.
Which book is the best one to use? Trying to figure out how not to get an argument started, since he overreacts no matter how calmly I mention a concern. I swear I just lovingly state a problem, but he always thinks it is an attack on him. We live in Florida and it grows so fast. We have a lawn service. Then the argument goes on… yelling and finally I yell back. Not a pretty picture. He is not senile and neither am I.
Hi again Mary, so the test was in a book? Is the point that the counseller suggested a test, the test was in a book and you did that together? Again with regard to the comments and flying off the handle in response to innocent comments, I can only tell you, yes I can relate to you.
When a relationship has broken down it is about trust and my guess is that there is a lot of resentment on both sides — you toward him for playing victim and him toward you as he obviously feels like one. The question is probably whether that trust can be rebuilt and how.
I know I have been in situations where I end up getting upset because of a similar situation where someone close to me is playing victim and reacting strongly to something I have said which is perfectly innocent — it is extremely frustrating and feels unfair to be blamed, judged and misrepresented in this way and I have ended up reacting strongly myself feeling wronged plenty of times in this situation.
Roles: Victim, Aggressor. Dynamics: Jealous rage. Examples: 1 I caught you this time. Social Paradigm: Adult-Adult. Adult: "See, you have done wrong. Parent: "I've been watching you, hoping you'd make a slip. Advantages: 1 Internal Psychological-justification for rage, thus gaining attention and vampirising energy.
Existentialism as the Poor Me Game. Looking at these many different types of life games it is possible to despair. This is the Existential position of looking at the mechanical people doing their mechanical things. Under the meaningless influence of Energy Blockages whose sole purpose is to Vampirise or Suck energy from you. Inhabiting the, "Meat machine" as described by Tesla, or any of the Movies created by Stanley Kubrick. This is the Existentialist position which is a very high intellectual and philosophical position which can only end in despair or the Ultimate Poor Me!!
Which always ends in suicide. Yet life is more than this. A light shines above us, "Brighter than 10, Suns it shines alone!! This is the Master Game of Awakening!! This is Energy Enhancement!! In Transactional Analysis, whenever the communication between the ego states get out of alignment, they do so because there is a script involved.
We call these sophisticated scripts programmed energy blockages. One of the problems of all script psychotherapy is that the psychotherapists have no methodology apart from talking to deprogram you from using the scripts, to remove the energy blockages.
For example, Frank Farrelly the gifted psychotherapist said in his book, "Provocative Therapy" talking to another psychotherapist, "Both you and I know that curing an alcoholic is like chipping ice from the Antarctic". The fact is that psychologists have no methodology apart from talking to remove energy blockages and put a halt to ANY of these Life games. They have no examples of energy blockages being removed. They have no patients they can point to who have recovered. Even Alcoholics Anonymous say that there is no cure.
All its members are Alcohol Free, "Just for one day". Likewise with the psychopathic Violator and the Star like Stalin or Mao reflected in the bad words and actions of petty tyrants the world over. These addicts, petty tyrants and slaves we see at all levels of every society in the world. All caused by Energy Blockages Energy Blockages are the cause of all your misery.
Energy Blockages are the cause of all the misery in the World. Whereas for thousands of years, spiritual masters have been through a process to remove all energy blockages starting with meditation. The results are shown in people like Jesus, Buddha and Rumi. People who overcame all the problems of humanity within themselves and became truly free of all that. Energy Enhancement utilises Ancient Effective and truly successful techniques to ground Negative Energies, Remove Energy Blockages, and Master Relationships and in the process remove all these stupid life games.
All our students - we have over 50 course reports - say that Energy Enhancement Works! Come and give Satchidanand a try.. E MAIL sol energyenhancement. This is a good introduction to the main theories of transactional analysis. However, it describes TA in quite mechanical terms. Even so, you may find some of the exercises interesting or challenging. This is a superb book on neuropsychology, attachment and love.
If you want to know how love makes your brain sing, this is the one to read. A very good introduction to child development and what sort of personality traits result from what sort of parenting.
Fascinating reading, especially some of the case examples James describes. This is quite an old book, which describes how children adapt to their parents out of necessity and may become very defended and cold adults in the process.
Miller championed the cause of the child in psychoanalysis and lays down one of the foundations for "working with your inner child. Lowen was one of the early body psychotherapists, who were interested in how defense mechanisms get laid down in our bodies as energy blockage stiffnesses.
He describes how blockages create different personality styles which restrict their bodies in different ways to curtail impulses or emotions. Energy Enhancement Enlightened Texts. More Transactional analysis More about blockages When I decided to fly half way around the world to study for 9 months with people I had never met before, or even talked to on the phone, my friends said I was a little crazy but encouraged me to follow my heart.
Thank goodness I have open-minded friends. My gut instinct told me that you were both good people and that you would help me with my goals. Here is my advice to anyone who is unsure if it is wise to fly half way around the world to join you:. DO IT!
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